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Thursday, 01 September 2011

  • So I got married almost 3 weeks ago now!  It's crazy how the time passes.  The whole summer was spent in a whirlwind of crazy as we tried to throw a wedding together in 3 1/2 months with only $5000 from her dad.  We managed, even though we went over budget quite a bit.  The average couple starts in debt after they get married anyway, so financially we aren't doing too bad.

    We finally got internet in our condo last night.  I forgot how nice it is (and convenient) to have internet on my computer instead of having to use hers at work, or go to my mom's on her slow computer.  Getting housewarmed hasn't been too bad.  I was just getting used to my new (her old) bed and I decided to move it into a different room.  See, we bought a new bed from Sears last night using mostly gift card money, but they won't deliver it until next week.  She doesn't want to move the bed back (even though I'm willing to do it myself) so we're sleeping in a cramped spare room full of wedding things and other assorted miscellanea with hardly any room to move about.  The cat has been upset with the new addition (i.e. me) to the house already, and all the rearranging is causing all sorts of fury. :)  Oh well, she's a good cat, and every now and then she betrays the fact that she actually likes me.  Haha.

    It was a somewhat hot and muggy night last night despite the 2 fans blowing on the bed, so I jumped in the shower while she was in there getting ready for work.  I was promptly informed that now I have to actually get up, when I usually sleep in after she leaves.  Well, she got what she asked for.  As soon as I was all clean (and she was still in there) I threw some clothes on and sprinted down the stairs to the kitchen.  By the time she was out of the bathroom, she had scrambled eggs, bacon, orange juice, and a fresh latte' made with our new espresso machine.  I walked her to her car (in the exact way she used to walk me to mine from this residence) and kissed her goodbye.

    Yeah, I guess it was a good morning. :)

Wednesday, 03 August 2011

  • Random thought

    The purpose of representative government is not to allow the people to make all of the decisions, but rather to elect representatives more qualified, to make those decisions on behalf of the people.  If an elected leader, then, makes a decision or acts in a way contrary to the wishes of his/her constituency, what right do the people have to second guess it?  If the representative is more qualified, and was elected in good faith demonstrating that qualification, and has access to information that the people do not, the people ought to allow the representative to make any decisions or to act as they see fit.  Even when this representative acts against a position that he/she previously stood for, doesn't their election, with the additional information granted to them as a consequence, allow them to change sides on the issue?  This does not mean that the representative is not accountable for decisions and actions made, however.  In the event of scandal, all legal means should be exercised to correct the wrongdoing.  However, if no laws are broken, the decision or action ought to be judged on its own outcome, and if the people choose to not vote for him/her in future elections, accountability is maintained.  

    The current debt crisis in America scares me to death, and I disagree with much of what our leadership is doing.  However, I trust in God and in them to make good decisions on my behalf.  And if they do not, I elected them and am therefore responsible for the decisions that they made.  Pray for America, and support your government leaders, praying for them as well.  Do not allow yourself to become angry whenever you disagree with them.  

Friday, 25 March 2011

  • When I'm awake this late, sometimes it reminds me of the Army. I used to work night shift a lot of the time, and I also pulled a lot of guard duty at night. There is a certain peace and clarity of thought that comes with the night. I have always processed my thoughts better and produced better work at night.

    Right now I remember my time in Iraq...

Tuesday, 20 July 2010

  • Third wheel has a fourth?

    The title, of course, is a reference to my last blog. I made it sound like I was miserable in that blog, but I wasn't really, just frustrated at the time. However, as I've gotten to know my best friend's fiancé's group of friends, I've come to not mind spending time with them as much. And also, one of the girls in the group has been spending quite a bit of time as the "fourth wheel" with us.

    At first, I had thought that she was just coming along to hang out with Jen, and because she likes Graeter's Ice Cream (who doesn't?!?!). And then, my best friend started inviting her to stuff that would normally just be me, him and his fiancé. Then the whole group (six of us) went camping at Lake Erie and stuff for the 4th of July, and last weekend we all camped together at Breathe (breathefestival.org), and I called him out for trying to set us up. He says he is doing nothing of the sort (yeah, right), but is now aware that I might actually be interested.

    So the girl's name is Patty. She has a kind of different personality... she's really smart, and she has one of those mischievous senses of humor, kind of like my friend Jeanette (who owes me at least one letter!). :) She also has a kind of external thought process (she thinks out loud), which we are constantly making fun of her for, but she's a good sport about it. She drives an old Saturn, which she claims has a governor on it that prevents her from accelerating which is why she drives so slow. We also make fun of her for that, and we don't let her drive whenever there's a choice. :) The only thing I can think of that I don't like about her, is the fact that she listens to country music. I suppose I can learn to tolerate it... but... at least it isn't rap. I can't stand rap. Haha.

    We seem to get along really well, but even though she is really cute, I'm still not sure how attracted I am to her. Part of it is probably the natural response that people who have been hurt before seem to have. We realize that something might actually work so we run from it to protect ourselves. I've been honest with her about my past, and although I haven't shared everything, the things I have shared she doesn't judge me for. She even sounds INTERESTED in it. Woah. We find ourselves talking until 2am wondering where the time went, and if you know me, you know that this doesn't happen very often. So I am seeing where things go at this point. If nothing else, I have a new close friend, and maybe it will grow into something more. My sisters have told me that you don't always feel attracted at first, but that it will come with time, so maybe it will.

    It's nice to have a fourth, and the dynamic with myself, Patty, my best friend and his fiancé seems to be a good one. I guess we'll see what happens. :)

Saturday, 19 June 2010

  • Third wheeling it

    It seems like everywhere I go, no matter who I am with, I am always the third wheel. I am living with my best friend right now, and his fiance' is always there it seems. Most of the social activities I engage in involve both of them. The only other people I spend time with is family these days, which usually involves my sister and husband and their 10 week old boy, or one of my other sister's and their kids, etc. Even my facebook page is 95% people posting about their kids and/or significant other. I just want to get away from it.

    A lot of my frustration stems from my best friend though. He seems to be trying to completely merge his sphere of influence with me and his sphere with Jen. For example, he goes to her small group and knows all her friends. He invited me to go but I was never interested. When I got home to Columbus after graduation, he asked if I wanted to do a Bible study with him and Jen. I said I wouldn't mind and stuff. Several weeks later, I find out that apparently I am leading a Bible study for their entire small group, and one of the girls asks me about it after church sunday night. Not only do I not feel prepared, but now there is all this pressure on me, especially because he is always telling everyone how great I am and stuff.

    Another source of frustration is a situation with Jen, my best friend's fiance'. I made a comment about his previous marriage in front of her, and a little later (while she is still there) he whispers to me that she didn't appreciate me referencing it. Since then it has become somewhat of a big deal and she doesn't like the fact that I didn't apologize right away. Now, I understand that his first marriage can be a difficult subject for her, and I am not going to bring it up again, but honestly, there will be plenty of reminders and she needs to understand that and get over it or deal with it in some way. You can't just pretend it didn't happen and it will go away. Also it isn't my responsibility to know all her insecurities and to cater to her all the time. I am not the one about to marry her. It just makes me want to get away from them more than I already do.

    I am writing this from my phone, sitting in the backseat of the car on the way to Michigan for the day. They are in the front and I have my headphones on listening to music trying to tune them out. I really didn't want to go except I wanted to see his cousin whom I don't get to see often enough. Hopefully I can make it through the day...

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  • BeautifulSerendipity
    yeah. :) although I hardly use the chatboard myslef...
  • comsciguy82
    Yeah, I kinda got tired of having to post fillers just so it wouldn't expire. I was playing with the "new" xanga layouts (that have been around for quite some time, oblivious to me) and noticed there was a chatboard you could add. I'm glad I found it :)
  • BeautifulSerendipity
    No wonder I couldn't find it... haha
  • comsciguy82
    So I decided to get rid of my Flooble... nobody uses it anyway. So you can use this chatboard instead :D

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